living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

dependence in your feelings cooperation mistakes progress trauma control definition happiness convictions abundance reset soul death magnification self discovery suffering responsibility belief healing action self consciousness consequences grief peace people pleasing goals feelings momentum openness worry self talk life detachment resentment natural contentment narcissism response change initiative path of growth vulnerability triggered accountability authenticity choices denial relationships trust understanding attachments self forgiveness anger self definition care stumbles subconscious connection self programming strength safety choice love judgment conscious living fear rabbits challenges respect challenge kindness grounding insanity personal responsibility personas resetting growth hurt support learning mindfulness isolation struggle self love mindset manipulation validation failure success processing consistency delusion truth journey attention setbacks codependency wisdom triggers thoughts cognitive distortions solitude attachment present destination intimacy now freedom breathe persistence anxiety perception self acceptance pain insecurity reality self reliance externalization self deception commitment flow counterdependence grace expectations complaining actions existing meditation self care boundaries compassion self awareness condemnation bitterness death hope appreciation projection expectation breakup impermanence honesty focus intrinsic adapt acceptance reactivity weakness damage forgiveness gratitude beliefs communication worth blind spots self knowledge lessons celebration perfection disqualifying the positive centering toxicity self control supply unstuck suppression stuck
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