living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

destination existing thoughts connection expectations conscious living self deception meditation care intrinsic toxicity blind spots trauma adapt damage codependency validation communication persistence unstuck vulnerability hurt weakness in your feelings happiness manipulation detachment solitude perfection judgment soul death pain mindset worth attachments focus choices celebration anxiety triggered struggle death denial hope journey isolation honesty mindfulness stuck path of growth natural complaining rabbits belief self care setbacks compassion perception self discovery insecurity life forgiveness bitterness magnification worry subconscious kindness action flow narcissism attention people pleasing triggers self love delusion authenticity truth fear present initiative love breakup understanding relationships lessons beliefs self talk freedom self consciousness expectation impermanence support reality dependence challenge reactivity externalization grounding insanity cooperation responsibility condemnation goals self forgiveness stumbles progress self reliance now abundance trust actions change definition suffering consequences grief gratitude appreciation disqualifying the positive healing success resentment cognitive distortions self acceptance convictions challenges control respect peace commitment failure openness intimacy strength projection wisdom grace boundaries processing suppression supply consistency growth safety resetting reset learning acceptance response counterdependence mistakes contentment personas feelings self awareness momentum breathe personal responsibility accountability self knowledge self control attachment centering self definition anger choice self programming
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