living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

freedom intimacy goals weakness resetting path of growth destination learning relationships openness care fear cooperation externalization momentum mistakes trust meditation support initiative self discovery trauma strength intrinsic responsibility mindfulness forgiveness conscious living self programming wisdom self definition existing soul death safety belief personal responsibility communication pain truth definition death attachment self control impermanence lessons rabbits vulnerability choice understanding mindset triggered challenge consistency hurt challenges cognitive distortions expectation action happiness insanity breathe self deception self consciousness in your feelings worry natural self care codependency accountability judgment supply expectations struggle insecurity reactivity worth grounding healing validation setbacks self knowledge toxicity self love celebration contentment acceptance self forgiveness self awareness control convictions perfection breakup bitterness self acceptance unstuck actions reality authenticity choices people pleasing resentment persistence triggers dependence love change connection personas now boundaries hope projection grace failure attachments feelings kindness magnification attention denial growth detachment blind spots abundance centering counterdependence commitment thoughts condemnation reset focus suffering life adapt processing suppression perception success journey self talk delusion gratitude peace anxiety flow solitude present grief response appreciation stuck manipulation isolation beliefs complaining self reliance progress narcissism compassion subconscious honesty anger disqualifying the positive respect consequences stumbles damage
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