living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

understanding life self awareness self reliance supply self knowledge triggers cooperation wisdom self love impermanence narcissism setbacks relationships self acceptance manipulation damage worth detachment honesty actions care choice hurt self definition challenge reset codependency personal responsibility commitment soul death feelings judgment trauma consequences contentment insecurity compassion path of growth self care convictions blind spots accountability solitude conscious living authenticity perception initiative subconscious beliefs anger intrinsic attachments journey celebration kindness grief people pleasing counterdependence destination projection belief existing control intimacy in your feelings communication mindfulness consistency personas present attachment natural condemnation responsibility toxicity openness freedom stumbles unstuck success resentment mistakes externalization worry action hope grounding anxiety self programming happiness death healing truth flow safety boundaries response validation self forgiveness self control suppression reactivity breakup connection abundance focus gratitude bitterness self deception processing now delusion lessons self discovery meditation resetting growth goals expectation trust triggered strength peace vulnerability self talk rabbits love choices pain reality isolation challenges insanity grace support magnification fear expectations thoughts respect stuck acceptance progress dependence appreciation forgiveness breathe denial complaining centering learning self consciousness failure perfection persistence cognitive distortions disqualifying the positive adapt momentum mindset attention weakness definition suffering struggle change
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