The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq
For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal
when you’ve done
all you can
to be there for someone
trapped in a narcissistic
and devaluing pattern
freedom
is realizing this truth
quotefeeling:
“As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them.”
— Neale Donald Walsch (via thoughtkick)
do you have
any say
in your own choices?
only if you let go
of pleasing everyone else
consider others
but have the courage
to make choices that are best for all
including yourself
julesofnature:
“I sat with my anger long enough, until she told me her real name was grief.”
— Isaac Rowe
her real name
is never anger
it’s grief
or pain
or sorrow
or hurt
thoughtkick:
“Sometimes the greatest act of love is to walk away so that the other person can find their true self and direction again.”
— Leon Brown
love is not
just warm, fuzzy feelings
love is real
in doing what’s best for another person
even if it hurts