living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

compassion trauma change grief codependency reactivity boundaries choice complaining contentment self knowledge delusion centering wisdom safety happiness response present authenticity magnification lessons self forgiveness personal responsibility destination expectations self discovery attachment perception success truth impermanence support life abundance belief definition intimacy choices persistence attachments manipulation conscious living death self programming isolation openness judgment self reliance narcissism celebration subconscious convictions existing action cognitive distortions reset damage beliefs self control pain externalization challenge triggers actions accountability challenges trust natural anger stumbles solitude bitterness projection people pleasing weakness mistakes initiative counterdependence self definition condemnation relationships feelings insecurity hurt breakup detachment rabbits control goals honesty vulnerability mindset failure setbacks healing care thoughts dependence progress communication connection validation worth personas stuck suppression perfection unstuck acceptance peace grounding self awareness anxiety consequences learning path of growth self acceptance growth expectation kindness self deception understanding consistency self love supply fear cooperation respect reality resentment freedom commitment now blind spots adapt self care soul death strength resetting love self talk mindfulness gratitude self consciousness focus processing momentum worry responsibility forgiveness denial attention journey struggle flow toxicity disqualifying the positive hope breathe intrinsic meditation in your feelings triggered insanity grace suffering appreciation
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