living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

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