living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

disqualifying the positive personal responsibility commitment triggered attention accountability self control trust forgiveness attachments codependency unstuck denial self definition externalization people pleasing struggle breakup attachment feelings communication convictions resetting authenticity action resentment anxiety initiative rabbits self knowledge contentment life truth centering blind spots success subconscious growth mindfulness soul death triggers belief perfection journey self acceptance narcissism consequences happiness control kindness momentum fear conscious living intrinsic celebration personas relationships self forgiveness existing self discovery processing grief expectations complaining validation breathe judgment toxicity anger path of growth love understanding healing consistency insecurity grounding projection respect self deception delusion persistence abundance in your feelings worry focus failure present actions flow openness suffering challenge counterdependence thoughts hurt meditation now progress appreciation condemnation self reliance stumbles peace challenges stuck boundaries reality self talk adapt self love learning pain care support strength trauma manipulation choices natural honesty destination choice self consciousness solitude death dependence supply beliefs expectation cognitive distortions reset isolation insanity intimacy safety definition bitterness goals mindset setbacks self awareness acceptance cooperation weakness suppression compassion change gratitude response perception grace lessons worth detachment self programming magnification mistakes impermanence hope damage responsibility freedom wisdom vulnerability connection self care reactivity
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