living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

personas dependence vulnerability externalization self awareness love contentment attachment happiness conscious living expectations self definition intrinsic projection self reliance magnification triggers honesty care insecurity self programming denial openness self control complaining understanding initiative insanity healing present counterdependence unstuck success cooperation progress worth detachment manipulation learning intimacy authenticity disqualifying the positive forgiveness abundance grace safety codependency failure path of growth adapt supply setbacks communication compassion trust focus self talk worry mistakes reality expectation self knowledge action journey control accountability life natural stumbles grounding self love self care lessons judgment self acceptance choices mindfulness isolation change attention beliefs condemnation relationships persistence triggered meditation now breakup flow blind spots grief breathe attachments existing validation pain self consciousness self forgiveness feelings anxiety convictions rabbits reactivity reset trauma struggle goals suppression self discovery mindset growth belief resentment damage definition consequences freedom support strength narcissism gratitude actions impermanence destination solitude subconscious kindness fear bitterness boundaries anger truth weakness challenges people pleasing wisdom perfection consistency acceptance processing connection choice suffering resetting responsibility cognitive distortions challenge personal responsibility hope respect delusion celebration response appreciation in your feelings peace stuck soul death hurt commitment death thoughts perception momentum self deception centering toxicity
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