living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

breakup commitment expectation accountability self talk grief worry grounding care intrinsic failure change support anger consequences damage action path of growth worth mistakes gratitude manipulation learning suppression personas perfection solitude self consciousness contentment externalization grace disqualifying the positive attention happiness narcissism control respect challenge growth triggers present response supply belief choices hurt appreciation initiative journey detachment honesty mindset weakness self acceptance connection feelings resetting actions fear self knowledge complaining definition attachments life bitterness convictions personal responsibility success trauma openness condemnation communication blind spots lessons processing perception compassion magnification forgiveness beliefs self discovery impermanence momentum reality freedom thoughts centering self reliance death wisdom judgment self control projection suffering natural counterdependence isolation responsibility adapt anxiety triggered expectations hope understanding self awareness stuck insecurity destination focus choice dependence codependency abundance peace struggle consistency meditation unstuck authenticity boundaries healing existing toxicity insanity now intimacy soul death self love celebration acceptance delusion cooperation rabbits safety challenges goals relationships people pleasing self forgiveness pain validation setbacks flow subconscious self definition trust love self care reactivity breathe reset truth self programming kindness conscious living attachment denial in your feelings self deception resentment vulnerability mindfulness stumbles cognitive distortions persistence strength progress
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