living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

detachment perception setbacks intrinsic counterdependence stumbles definition momentum trauma processing grounding now toxicity unstuck commitment respect grief in your feelings self definition connection self programming self reliance life isolation pain personas healing bitterness goals happiness self acceptance beliefs worry lessons supply worth triggers growth attachment denial failure acceptance soul death centering meditation persistence care challenges cognitive distortions self deception death validation narcissism kindness dependence natural resentment convictions gratitude flow control conscious living grace delusion abundance impermanence contentment belief wisdom choices freedom progress feelings vulnerability codependency present openness reality expectation self love insecurity blind spots cooperation externalization self forgiveness rabbits hope mindfulness disqualifying the positive stuck reactivity actions self care suppression love focus learning truth condemnation compassion magnification self consciousness boundaries adapt manipulation consistency forgiveness support honesty trust strength perfection attention accountability journey anger subconscious hurt safety struggle authenticity reset understanding triggered mindset personal responsibility self control insanity damage suffering breathe self knowledge self awareness solitude relationships appreciation self talk path of growth communication destination change people pleasing anxiety judgment breakup fear peace thoughts responsibility intimacy mistakes expectations response initiative self discovery success challenge attachments resetting choice existing projection consequences action weakness celebration complaining
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