living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

worth manipulation pain self care meditation present strength forgiveness counterdependence freedom stuck consequences persistence self deception isolation connection suffering grief people pleasing validation attention worry love blind spots responsibility progress support self definition healing bitterness commitment honesty thoughts natural subconscious momentum unstuck detachment solitude communication self forgiveness life self reliance choice death vulnerability mistakes respect mindfulness reality flow resentment mindset rabbits adapt learning disqualifying the positive anger peace relationships self consciousness suppression personal responsibility breakup challenges narcissism impermanence damage beliefs complaining supply attachment lessons self programming expectation success toxicity challenge care abundance dependence contentment understanding destination happiness self love journey truth wisdom delusion magnification struggle hurt self acceptance accountability celebration in your feelings soul death self awareness projection denial growth safety resetting response expectations personas feelings setbacks gratitude self control fear condemnation processing control anxiety perception trauma attachments focus triggered definition initiative belief openness goals choices change weakness appreciation centering intrinsic reactivity kindness perfection codependency cooperation self talk grace actions grounding authenticity externalization insanity self discovery stumbles insecurity path of growth trust compassion consistency boundaries cognitive distortions intimacy action acceptance convictions hope reset now triggers failure existing judgment self knowledge breathe conscious living
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