living in now

living in now

a joyful life of detached curiosity, openness, and contentment
accept reality without assigning meaning,
become calm, centered, and grounded,
then, and only then,
seek understanding with curiousity, openness, and without judgment
and process, calmly, so you can
respond rationally and effectively
discover joy, peace, unconscious happiness
through practicing contentment and gratitude

loved for you

The reason you want [your deceased] back so bad is because you didn’t have to change you at all to love her
You’ve had to make concessions for [who you’re with now] at every turn. She locks you down with shackles on your wrists and ankles to where you have to keep turning and moving and finding new ways to be comfortable
That’s not love
— eq

breakup realizations

For me, I just come to a place of recognizing they are who they are.
Who am I to want something different for them?
And stepping out of the way to allow them to do what they are going to do anyways.
And recognizing that I love them just the same, but there comes a place where a healthy relationship can no longer be maintained for either one of us.
They may care in their own way, but I am asking something of them that they are incapable of.
— mal

when you’ve done

all you can

to be there for someone

trapped in a narcissistic

and devaluing pattern

freedom

is realizing this truth

solitude projection hope success self definition triggered support grounding bitterness self talk destination appreciation connection initiative response choices meditation processing unstuck freedom self deception lessons understanding toxicity triggers hurt attention choice worth attachments challenges reactivity stumbles struggle judgment commitment control life damage condemnation wisdom self care grace peace care centering celebration existing validation insanity narcissism abundance breakup attachment worry magnification self love subconscious path of growth isolation setbacks counterdependence compassion anxiety safety present journey acceptance challenge healing impermanence happiness grief trust consequences dependence in your feelings fear cooperation perception change personal responsibility self knowledge death communication accountability manipulation gratitude self control adapt action belief soul death focus pain boundaries codependency resentment delusion goals actions people pleasing expectation complaining relationships self acceptance kindness beliefs consistency forgiveness thoughts momentum externalization resetting definition respect weakness love growth self discovery self forgiveness responsibility cognitive distortions learning truth stuck intrinsic now anger flow trauma rabbits conscious living personas failure mindfulness perfection self awareness reset convictions mindset feelings vulnerability self consciousness blind spots mistakes authenticity expectations insecurity supply suppression openness breathe progress self programming honesty disqualifying the positive persistence self reliance contentment reality suffering denial natural intimacy strength detachment
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